The Daddy: Quitting the Baby Monitor: Road to Better Sleep and Child Independence or Terrifying Irresponsible Nightmare Situation?
The Momma: I’m so TORN about the baby monitor. Every time we try to not have it, I freak out. Which I know is kind of dumb at night–his room is like, 4 steps from ours. But still.
D: When is the right time to stop using it? I agree- it’s tough to let go, and when you can’t hear anything at all, well, I’ve already illustrated that. At the same time, we can’t use it forever.
M: I think the decision is made a little more complicated for me because we live in a two story place. Which is to say….I don’t know, but I don’t think it’s just yet.
M: Maybe when he can talk it’ll be a little easier to figure out that threshold.
D: Yeah, talking will most likely be the key. I know we’re not near, but I think the time is gonna ramp up pretty soon. Also when he’s got a little more cognitive and motor- when he can get out of bed, open the door and come upstairs, etc.
D: Now that I think about it, that may be a time when we REALLY need the monitor- when he gets a little more mobile.
M: Or when he’s not in the crib anymore? We’re never gonna get rid of that thing are we?
D: No, remember, it transforms into the bed. I’ve been thinking that time could be relatively soon, but I might be insane.
M: It wouldn’t surprise me. But…then he can, like, walk around and stuff.
D: True, but I think when he’s tired enough, he’ll pass out anyway. But yeah, that could be its own world of problems.
M: So maybe we keep the monitor for a little while longer? Because the idea of him wandering around his room without us at least hearing him…oh man.
D: Yeah, of course we’ll hold on to it for now. Still not sure when the time will be right. Then again, this could be one of those things (like so many) where he lets US know when it’s time.
M: Probably. Like everything else it seems.
M: Or we’ll break this one. And I swear, we’re not buying a freaking 4th monitor.
D: Fair enough. And I promise not to smash this one if it goes into a clicking episode again.
M: Well, that will help. Although the clicking deserves what it gets.
D: I fucking hate the clicking.
M: As do I. As. Do. I.