Tantrum Evolution

by The Daddy on May 11, 2011

Someday.

Someday I’ll stop saying stupid things. Things like how easy the kid is to take care of at times. Things like how his tantrums aren’t too bad to deal with, because at least the kid turns to jello instead of a rigid, squirmy python of frustration. How putting him in a car seat could be worse.

That day hasn’t come yet, and for now, it appears that I’ll keep figuring out creative ways to sabotage the next step this kid is gonna take. I’ll keep thinking we’ve got a good bead on how this parenting thing goes, that we’re starting to figure it out and that I’ve got aspects of his personality figured out. Someday that will all change.

Someday.

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TechyDad May 11, 2011 at 10:58 am

Sorry to burst your bubble, but you never get it figured out. Just as you figure your kid out, he (or she) changes such that you need to start from the beginning again.

Oh, and never, ever, *EVER* comment on how long it has been since your child’s last sickness. That’s an open invite for the plague to come in your house at 1am, crawl up your kid’s nose and begin inviting all of it’s friends inside for a big party.

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The Daddy May 11, 2011 at 11:32 am

Oh I know we’ll never get it figured totally OUT. There are just times where we think we’re getting into a rhythm and then BAM! Gone are all the tweaks that have been working. The sickness thing…yeah we’re going through that lately. Seems like I can’t even THINK “hey, he hasn’t been sick in awhile.”

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HowToBeADad May 11, 2011 at 11:10 am

If brevity is the soul of wit, then diarrhea-speak is the soul of dads.

It’s our job as dads to say the wrong/inappropriate thing to countermand the terrorism of parenting. Period.

I agree with TechyDay. Kids are a Tabula Rasa every other day. But screw it. He’s my Tabula Rasa.

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The Daddy May 11, 2011 at 11:35 am

Oh that’s hitting very hard at the moment. I think as Dads (men?) we are constantly trying to “fix” everything, as if it was a nut to be tightened with the right wrench. Of course it’s a combo of a mechanical “solve it as it comes along” as well as “tenderly understand and be compassionate about” problems that arise in the parenting realm that is fostering a place in the household.
I’ll say one thing for sure: I’d be (and more importantly, the kid would be) screwed without The Momma! I sometimes feel like I’m doing more harm than good!

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Maya August 2, 2015 at 2:45 am

I knew my then 7th grade daughter ndeeed help when she was hiding in the bathroom at school, pulling her hoodie over her head in school and complaining about the teachers and kids non stop. She started seeing a psychiatrist and she diagnosed ADD.The medicine helped and we had some much better years, but by 10th grade she was anxious and depressed. It turns out that some of this was related to her ADD and issues and some of it was chronic Lyme (she was bitten as a toddler and in preschool, but treated with large amounts of antiobiotics). Now we are treating the Lyme and depression and she is talking to a therapist. She is doing better, but it is slow progress. At first she asked why she should talk to a therapist, I told her so that she could deal with her problems as they were happening. That made sense to her and so she is becoming comfortable with talking to her therapist. I do hear fewer rages at home about teachers and students. There are some small successes here and I feel it’s an investment in her future.

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