This Weekend Was a Real Hit

by The Momma on October 24, 2011

I’m being beaten by a two year-old.

Both figuratively AND literally.

Ok, ok, ok. BEATEN is probably a bit of an exaggeration. But the Noodle is in a hitting phase right now, and I’m telling you I’m taking my physical lumps along with my “I’m a crappy parent why can’t I fix this” lumps.

Of course, I’m not the only one. This weekend alone, the Daddy, the dog, three walls, the coffee table, a chain link fence, the entertainment center, the floor, the refrigerator, his shoe, and (most mortifying of all) a random little girl at the pumpkin patch have all been subjected to the swings of the two year old.

It seems that there are three main “reasons” he hits.

  1. He gets frustrated or upset because we tell him not to do something.
  2. He gets worked up because he’s over-stimulated and hitting is his way of “releasing” that energy.
  3. He’s insane? (this one is just a theory of mine though).

Basically, I think it’s impulse control on a lot of levels. However, having an idea of where it comes from doesn’t mean it’s been easy to deal with. We’ve tried time outs. We’ve tried removing him from the situation. We’ve tried removing ourselves from the situation. We’ve tried “consequences” (if you hit at the playground, we’re going home). We’ve tried anticipating and redirecting or trying to calm him in advance. None of it seems to be helping.

We’ve gone through phases with him hitting before and eventually they just passed. There’s a part of me that hopes the same thing happens here. But until that happens, all we can do is continue to let him know it’s an unacceptable way to express his frustrations/over-excitement and pray that it sinks in.

Before I end up with a black eye I have to explain away.

Unless any of you have ideas. I’m at my wits end.

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

shasta October 24, 2011 at 12:24 pm

I’ll tell you how to stop yours from hitting if you can tell me how to stop mine from biting.

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Kate October 25, 2011 at 1:58 pm

Hmmm… just a thought of something we are working with for Beckett and having her be responsible for her choices… It’s also a tool for helping kids learn that they need to tap into their own inner-control and that rules can be broken, but there are consequences for that choice.

Dialogue:
“Beckett you have two choices. If you make the choice to hit me or Daddy, you have made the choice to leave the playground. If you make the choice to follow the rules and play nicely with other children and Mommy and Daddy, you have made the choice to stay for longer at the playground.”

It really has helped us IMMENSELY with Beckett understanding that she is responsible for what happens – good or bad.

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