Guest Noodling: Help! My Toddler Stole My Bed!

by Guest on November 7, 2011

Today, our guest poster is Lisa from Seriously. Lisa and the Momma have been blog friends for a few years now, which has only solidified more as we’ve had kids. We have a lot in common, including our snarky senses of humor and our tendencies to worry about everything we can’t control. Today, she needs your help with a VERY SERIOUS sleep issue, so hit it Lisa!

Hi, I’m Lisa, mom to 13 month old Olivia.  Olivia decided to join us eight weeks early and weighed only 3.5 pounds at birth, but she soon caught up to her peers, now weighing in at 26 pounds and 31 inches tall.

I mention this because that 31 inches of baby has been sleeping smack in the middle of our bed for weeks now.  You would think someone only 2.5 feet tall wouldn’t take up that much space, but she somehow seems to always position herself where she can simultaneously kick and punch both of us.

We can’t seem to pinpoint why she is not sleeping well lately.  She wakes every night sometime between midnight and 3 AM.  At first, we tried rocking her back to sleep and putting her in her own crib.  However, after nights of rocking for an hour only to have her wake up as soon as we put her down, we started bringing her to bed with us.

Now, she stands up in her crib and yells a little bit for us.  If we don’t respond right away (because believe me, we’ve tried that), she yells a little bit louder.  If we still don’t respond, she walks to the side of her crib with the monitor and leans towards the monitor and yells a little bit more.

The one that wins every single time though?  Leaning towards the monitor and softly saying “Dada?”

Dada goes and retrieves her from the crib and he and I assume the positions we’ve discovered are the best bets for getting at least a few winks of sleep with a tossing and turning toddler.  We both scoot as far as we can to the edge of the bed, turn our pillow up vertical and place it right at the edge, and turn our backs toward the middle of the bed.  The last one I learned after taking a foot right in the mouth one night.

Last night, as I clung to the edge of the bed, wide-awake at 4AM, I realized we’re really only in our own bed to serve as bumpers.

I considered buying bed rails and going to sleep somewhere else, but I somehow don’t think that will solve my problem.

Did any of your kids go through a “Mama and Dada’s bed” phase?  Do you have any tips for breaking that habit?

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

TechyDad November 8, 2011 at 5:11 am

Both of my boys went through that phase. They’ll still wind up in our bed if they aren’t feeling well, but they do usually stay in their own beds.

And I completely agree about kids taking up space in bed. When my four year old comes into bed with us, he gets a spot right in the middle of my wife and me. Somehow, though, he winds up taking up about 60% of my spot leaving me just enough of a sliver of bed that I don’t fall out. Then, he’ll turn so that he can kick and hit my wife as he sleeps. Not very restful at all.


Kate November 8, 2011 at 6:39 pm

We have a 3-year old and a 4-week old. We’ve never shared our bed with them after the first few weeks. I think that you both need to regain control and stop picking her up when she calls/cries for you. She’s working the system… :)


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