So, I don’t know what to do with this particular little bit of fun.
The Noodle has a bit of problem with hitting when he gets worked up–whether he’s frustrated, mad, happy, or excited, if he gets overstimulated hitting is one of his outlets. This only really seems to happen with us (we’ve never heard reports of him hitting at daycare), which makes me glad on the one hand and also annoyed on the other. Now, we’ve been working diligently on this from a discipline point of view, but his new habit makes it kind of hard.
See, before the routine was: Noodle gets worked up, Noodle hits and hits and hits (himself, the dog, the wall, us, the floor, the chair, whatever is closest to him) until one of us can reach him and stop the madness (he usually gets a time out to calm himself down, sometimes with one of us holding his hands if he keeps hitting himself or whatever surrounds him), and when he finally calms down he gives a hug to whoever (or whatever) he hit.
Now, though, the routine sometimes goes: Noodle gets worked up, Noodle hits, Noodle immediately hugs whatever he hit. Like, there’s not even room for a breath between the hitting and the hug. It’s almost one fluid motion…hithug.
What the heck do you DO with that? He obviously knows hitting isn’t something he’s supposed to do. He knows he has to say he’s sorry/give a hug when he hits. But now he seems to think he can hit and hug and one sort of negates the other.
I know that a big portion of it is we have to anticipate the hitting a little better, and calm him down before we get to that point. But I feel like the lesson he’s learned from us isn’t NO HITTING, but instead “you can hit as long as you say you’re sorry.”
Which, um, isn’t what we mean. At all.
So…I’m at a loss. Do we just ride it out? Ignore the hitting? Ignore the hug? Help!